Me, Zane and the Crazy Girl

Last week, Zane and I celebrated our "one year" anniversary. We were married on 7-7-07 - which was of course the DAY to get married last year. We didn't pick the date because it was the DAY. It just happened to be the Saturday closest to the one year anniversary of our first date so 7/7/07 it was. The day was beautiful and memorable. In fact, I would do it all over again were it not for the planning. (very stressful) We had close to 400 guests; the church was full. It was very humbling to see how many people loved us enough to celebrate our day with us. Zane and I said our vows and happily ever after began. We had a wonderful honeymoon in Costa Rica and came home to settle into our every day life.

Then an infamous houseguest showed up whom I affectionately call "the crazy girl." I had never met this girl before but she wanted to be my friend. I soon discovered that my new friend had few manners. She liked to come early and stay long and late. She was overly sensitive. She wanted things her way. She had the gall to think that her way of doing things was the right way to do things. I didn't have too many combative conversations with her but Zane sure did. He must have often where she came from and how in the world did she and I ever became friends. I told him that she wasn't really around until he showed up.

I have learned a few things in dealing with the crazy girl and she hasn't been around as much the last 6 months. I learned that the best way to say no to the crazy girl is to choose to walk in the Spirit. To choose to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. To choose open and honest communication with my husband instead of letting the crazy girl put up the screen of hurt feelings. To remember Zane and I are on the same team. Yes, the the crazy girl feels left out and I must say that Zane and I enjoy our marriage much more when it is just me and Zane. As they say, two's company but three is a crowd.